This might throw your through a loop, but here goes…There is no such thing as self-sabotage. There I said it! Before you start throwing eggs at me, let me explain.

Everyone is winning the game they are playing. That means we are all working perfectly to produce the results we’re getting. This is GOOD news because it means no one is broken!

If we are playing the game of self-sabotage… getting distracted by perfectionism, our busy lives, etc. we are winning the game of being distracted. If I keep telling myself “I don’t belong here”, then I’m going to be focused on any and all evidence that proves that to me… that might be misplacing the scheduling information for a meet-up group you just joined, or convincing yourself that your opinions aren’t valuable or that other people are more special, they are making friends, getting ahead and you’re somehow on the outside looking in.

What someone is experiencing is what they want to be experiencing. Now, you might be saying, “But Michelle, I have a lot of things I’m experiencing that I don’t want to be experiencing!” The bottom line is that we make the best choices available given our resources/environment/conditioning at the time. Healing, growth and success are not a question of getting rid of behaviors but rather a question of acquiring more behavioral choices.

So now it’s your turn. Leave a comment below tell me what you think of this paradigm that everyone is winning the game they are playing. What games are you winning that you’d rather not be winning anymore?

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